It's Black or It's White!

“Umm well, sometimes but not that often”, “Not really”, “May be”, “I’m not sure”, “I can but….”, “ Hmmm…okay…..”, “ I don’t mind, but how about….”; those endless phrases that keep you thinking about what to exactly say, or as an audience what you should expect to hear. Confusion is by default a part of each one’s mind and getting confused is normal, but what if this so called ‘normal’ thing happens frequently?

The mind and the heart usually play a tug-of-war with you being the rope and not to mention those self-values, societal norms, additional motives and contradicting goals that keep your mind oscillating like a pendulum so eventually you end up beating around the bush and get your audience baffled too! (That was a long sentence so you may read it again).

Here I’m not referring to those petty things about what to eat, which dress to buy and so on. It’s about reacting to situations and responding to people. Most of the times fear, anger, societal pressure and the desire to be accepted works as a filter between what you  wish to say and what you actually say. That happens with everyone, right? Ideally, the response to every situation should be like monochromes- either black or white. We can reserve those Fifty Shades of Grey for a leisurely watch/read!

Many-a-times, people hold back their opinions with the fear of offending the other person or for one of those millions of possible reasons. In a lot of situations people do not speak out their wishes and manipulate later. Well frankly, would you like to be an audience where you get a web-like response for everything? NO! Wouldn’t you expect a “Yes”, “No” or a similar crystal clear response each time? Life would be much more easy right? The fact is that you can only expect what you give. So if you wish to get black or white kind of clear answers, then you must first learn to respond that way!

There’s a thin line between being bold and being offensive. It all depends upon your selection of words and the tone of your voice and of course, your intentions. With the right blend of these, you can put your message forth without causing any harm! The intention to speak to the point also helps to keep your mind sorted and focused.

So these are my views on having “black” or “white” responses with no scope for greys. It makes life simple.

Do let me know your views about this!
Thank you for reading this post!

Love,
Bhavs