The Girl Boss Diary 3

A Boss- or a Slave- it’s all in your mind!

Hello all you beautiful souls! I used the term ‘beautiful souls’ for I believe that everyone is beautiful at the core. We’re all different shades of grey and until you don’t receive a negative vibe from people, you should think of them as being good! I was recently having a small conversation about being a ‘real boss’ when the person in dialogue told me, “Bhavna you’re an entrepreneur. You can call yourself a Girl Boss. People like us who do a job do not have that liberty” I assume a lot of people doing jobs may be having this feeling and that’s what inspired me to dedicating a post to it!

For those who know me closely, have an idea about my career graph- it has been quite varied. I have explored my skills in different areas like academics, content writing, jewellery designing, creative arts and even digital marketing. Not all of them have been my own venture! I am as much an employee as much as I am an entrepreneur. But I still proudly call myself a ‘Girl Boss’ – every day!

Bossiness is an attitude which I believe has nothing to do with the distribution of power at your workplace or even in your house. It’s the way you see yourself and more importantly- how you deal with yourself. Being a ‘real boss’ is definitely much beyond the act of shooting out orders!

Your Own Perspective

The strongest people I know are the ones who do not buy statements at face value. Whenever you hear any narration, take your time to process it, get more facts if needed, know what happened on the other side and then form a judgment. What if your boss believes a rumor and scolds you?
‘He/ She is not fit to be a boss’- that’s exactly what you will think right? So there you have your answer- having your own perspective is one of the prime virtues that make you a boss.

Facing yourself

Are you one of those who run away from your shortcomings? If yes then you’re enslaved by your own egoism! I’ve come across hundreds of people who go red in the face when given the slightest advice. Whether you lack somewhere or just made a mistake- there’s absolutely no harm in facing it! It’s as good as looking into a magical mirror that shows you the true image of yourself, beyond your physical attributes. A clash with oneself is one of the worst traps that a person can fall into!

The art of saying “No”

Being a ‘Yes’ person will earn you loads of appreciation from the world- and why not! Everyone loves people who are absolutely obedient and who adhere to what has been dictated. But that doesn’t sound good if you have your priorities in place. So did your boss tell you to work 3 hours overtime for an important assignment on hand and you gave an alternative solution, which helped you reach on time for the dinner date planned with your partner? If you did that, then Bingo! You’re the actual Boss!

Saying “No” is not always about throwing this two-letter word like a rebellious kid and walking out.  The smartest ones know how to have their way without leading on to any losses. Of course, there are times when you just have to shout a capital ‘NO’ and during those times you just need courage and whereas the rest of the situations call for some euphemistic juggling!
P.S: Mastering the art of creatively saying ‘No’ is fun.

You’re not poor!

It’s bliss to feel good about yourself! How you look- how you’re doing in your career- your finances- your relationships - whether you’re single or your married- your family life- your hobbies- this life is all about you and if you see clearly you will find a lot of abundance. There maybe be certain facts that are out of your control and if people see them as a shortcoming- then let them live in their own bubble of pity.
When I say confidence unlimited- it means you never have to play ‘victim’. Having a ‘poor me’ kind of attitude is again enslaving yourself to your perfect self which actually does not exist!

No matter what- you have the liberty to celebrate your existence- each and every day of your life. Feel good about everything that is a part of your world. So when people tell me to get braces for my teeth- I tell them, “I love this uniqueness”.

Having worked upon these areas I feel confident of calling myself a ‘Girl Boss’. There’s no acute feminism attached here, it’s just the semantics of this term that appeals to me more than calling myself just a ‘Boss’.

So this was rather a lengthy post and I want to thank all those who read it till the end. I hope you enjoyed reading it and do send me your feedback. I’d love to know your views!
And well, I have a question for you all,

“Are you a Boss?”

Outfit  Details:

Top: H & M
Trouser: AND
Bag: Esbeda
Sneakers: Pantaloons
Shades: Premsons- Breach Candy, Mumbai