The Queen Returns
Cheers! I’m back and with a sheepish grin, I admit to this
being my first post of 2020. With blogging being shifted to social media
captions and stories, I had just gotten into the flow, using these new
platforms for sharing my thoughts. And while I love the daily interaction with
my facebook and instagram communities, I wanted to write at length this time
about-
The
Comeback Journey
Living a life that most of us expect to be a garden of roses,
there’s time and again a roller coaster waiting out there. And if natural
hindrances like the ongoing pandemic, cyclones, locust attacks, and economic
slowdown weren’t enough, humanity is still compromised at all levels.
Facing a solid blow in the face (not a physical one always)
or a stab on the back is unfortunately a part of life. Colleagues, competitors,
and even the least expected friends and relatives can sometimes turn out to be
the biggest foes, putting you on the regression track. Sounds relatable? I’m
sure- for none of us are spared from deliberate external attacks that play
havoc with our work- and more importantly- our mind! And it is thus a
challenge- to step out from the mess that people and situations create to rise
up and make a comeback like a Queen (or a King- I don’t mean to do any gender
bias here).
The Setback
A peer challenging your abilities- an opportunist sabotaging
your growth- the society questioning your marital status- endless situations-
and endless woes! Getting angry, sad, anxious or depressed in such cases is
totally understandable. The recent death of a celebrity has also brought out
such issues rooted in the glitterati world. But well, I won’t be discussing
that at all in this post; leaving it aside with my sincere prayers for the soul
that has left to meet the divine.
Coming again to the setback moment- one question I suggest
that you ask yourself- how long do you tend to stay in the set back phase? And
what do you do while you succumb to the darkness that is thrown at you- maybe
unknowingly but in most cases, deliberately!
I would like to narrate a very small example from my school
days. I was a couch potato- extremely plump and often teased for being fat. I
argued and fought- breaking friendships- preferring to stay alone- and that
setback continued for years! It was only years later that I took action by
joining a gym and changing my diet- and there- began the journey of a comeback-
slow- but steady.
Having made fitness a lifestyle, today when I look back I
realize that my comeback journey began quite late- I could have achieved this
level of fitness more than a decade ago- instead of cribbing and crying (yes as
a kid I did that) I could have responded in a constructive way.
The
Comeback
Learning from my childhood self- and from other experiences-
I have come to live by the first rule of having a successful comeback journey-
and that is- BEGIN NOW.
There’s no ‘auspicious timing’ that one must wait for- to
begin rising up. Success is always waiting out there- and the only two combined
bridges that can lead you there are- consistent hard work and positive
thinking.
Having learned the lesson of acting fast several times, my
setback moments these days have thankfully shrunk down to few minutes or hours
or maximum one day. The moment someone tries to push me back, instead of
wasting my time on the silliness of ‘why are they doing that’ ‘I can’t face it’
– I put all my focus and energy into finding the best way out- and so far –
with all gratitude to the Universe- I would say that I’ve made it out of the
mess with minimum or no damage.
It was on one of my previous jobs that a colleague suddenly started
criticizing my work, putting the statement down everyone’s throat that I wasn’t
capable of writing good content. Office politics is pervasive and one of the
easiest ways to step above such sinking sand is to anchor yourself with
excellence. I spent around 3 to 4 days analyzing my work, looking out for every
detail that could be improved upon, reading- researching- and writing with a more
positive mindset. The result- loads from appreciation from the team- and well,
a promotion that followed soon.
Let Go…
Being constantly bullied, criticized, insulted, ignored- can
lead to a lot of bitterness accumulating in one’s mind and that unfailingly
reflects in not just lowered work efficiency but also deteriorating personal
life situations. And letting go all such negativity becomes difficult when the
source is unexpected. This often happens when friends backstab, supporters
back-off and well, while going through the trauma of failed relationships.
Letting go is all about accepting your current situation and
releasing all the negativity that is holding you back from a brighter life.
Blaming your partner for all the wrong that happened or vice versa- going down
the guilt abyss for not being able to keep your relationship going is a
nightmare for one’s soul.
When you want to let go- firstly cut off from the whirlwind
of questions that are clogging your mind- why- how- now what- if this, then
what- nothing. Letting go is the ideology of living in the present and
rejoicing all you have with utmost gratitude. It is only then that you can
neutralize yourself for a better tomorrow. And with those baby steps of
becoming a stronger person, you eventually grow into an all-new-being- the
Comeback King/Queen!
Hold On…
‘I will show them properly’- I’d salute the person who has
never thought, said, or acted on this statement- isn’t it a Universal thing?
And in the process, most of us tend to change ourselves. For new hairstyles- wardrobe
makeovers- common activities that people engage in especially during breakups
and societal bashing, I would suggest you go through the process without degrading
your present self. And in any case, one shouldn’t punish their happy and
innocent side and replacing their dreams and beautiful childlike qualities with
a revengeful attitude.
So while you make any changes to yourself or to your work or
your values- always make sure you don’t lose true self in the process. For only
when you hold on to your essence, that you can step up to conquer the world!
Take it Ahead!
A successful comeback can take years- months-weeks-days- or
it can be an overnight game. The mantra is to keep going with a positive
attitude while keeping your real self guarded at all times.
We all deserve to be the best versions of ourselves- so go ahead be the Queen that you’re meant to be!
We all deserve to be the best versions of ourselves- so go ahead be the Queen that you’re meant to be!
This was a pretty long post and if you’ve made it so far, I
really appreciate that.
Thank you!
Thank you!
Any suggestions, feedback, discussions are welcome. Have a
great day!
Love,
Bhavs
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